Self Control

As markets are turbulent and job security for millions hangs by a thread, we tend to be more adept to recognizing all the problems surrounding us. There are many examples of this right now: should I make a career change or prepare in case of a loss of employment; should I put money away in savings or pay down debt; should I improve communications with loved ones; how do I get ahead at work; how do I reach out to my children? The list could be endless and now you may have in mind something that may be affecting you.

The first thing you’ve done is recognized some problems you currently have. Now, if you’ve listed more than one, we will need to discover if these items were in your control and were affected by decisions you can or have made, or if they were in your indirect control, including others behavior or attitude, or finally, if you had or have absolutely no control of the outcome.

Now it becomes your responsibility, if you desire, to change an outcome or have a better ability to solve problems, you first must change yourself. If you have a problem that’s something in your control, you must begin immediately to solve it! If you’re problem is the economy and possible job loss, get moving on researching possible moves or education needs. If you’re trying to decide whether or not to pay off debt or save, seek advice from financial help sources. If you want to lose 20 pounds, get a gym membership and GO, often. Of these items that you control you will need to dedicate habits of thinking then doing.

If you have problems including others’ behavior and or actions, your problems need to be owned, you have an issue and you need to direct your mind to habits of self-control. Understand those with whom you are trying to have influence over and forget self. Preparation and not reaction will reap the greater reward. Cooperation, dedication, loyalty, love, respect, honor are all achieved when earned.

If you find that your problem is completely out of your control it becomes your responsibility to prepare for the outcome by preparing your attitude. If you look for outward solutions you will fail, the solutions to your problems must be borne from within. If outward circumstance cannot be controlled you must adapt and prepare with the correct attitude, your attitude and perspective will always be in your control.